Wednesday, 8 April 2009

Grounds for divorce?

In the States, snoring can be cited as grounds for a divorce...under the "unreasonable behaviour" category.
I guess it's unreasonable if you are a snorer and don't try to do anything about it. However, everyone has the right to a sound sleep. On the other hand, it's also unreasonable to be angry at a snorer who does try and still snores. I fall into this later category in that I have been very unreasonable with my husband who is trying his hardest to cure his snoring (sleep positions, mouth guard, nose strips, surgery to be considered).

Snoring can lead to emotional issues (taken from the interweb):
  • lack of sleep, leading to depression and anxiety
  • marital breakdown and divorce, due to lack of sleep and lack of empathy (remember, the snoring partner doesn’t often know the pain that they are unwittingly causing!)
  • eviction by a landlord and the resulting humiliation (this may sound funny, but some people have literally been kicked out of their homes because of their snoring!)
  • warring roommates and neighbors
  • job loss, due to inability to concentrate and focus (because of sleeplessness)
  • memory and retention problems due to sleeplessness

These can lead to the following states for both the snorer and his partner:

  • frustration
  • anger
  • feelings of violence
  • helplessness
  • desperation
  • anguish
  • exhaustion
  • growing resentment
  • lack of confidence and self-esteem

There is also a long list of physical issues. But I'm feeling emotional at the mo so that's where I'm concentrating. Lately I've been feeling a fair few of the emotional states. The sleep deprivation has of course been worsened by the tod having a cold and needing night time cuddles etc.

Thing is...and here is my very guilty little secret. I snore too. Unlike my husband I've not done much to address that. So it turns out, I'm the unreasonable one. That's going to change. I'm going to lose weight (after Easter eggs have all been consumed) and get a humidifier and try to ensure my nasal passages are lubricated. There are many non surgical techniques to try and we'll keep going to we find one that works. And then maybe we will all get a bit of rest round here.

It's certainly not grounds for a divorce. We have our 2nd year anniversary next week and I hope there will be many more.

Power of One

What do you do when the Council don't fulfill their obligations? Go on strike, vote for the opposition, stage a demonstration?

I live in an area the council deems to be a private estate. Its not - its a cul-de-sac and the other residents lower down the road (that is not a cul de sac) get the full range of services from the council. But my neighbours and we do not. And are we entitled to a reduction in Council tax...hell no.

They council don't take away our recycling. As tod had a tendency to need a few nappy changes, that means our rubbish gets full. We have to cart our other recyclables to the bins opposite Co-op. This is fair enough...but the laughable thing is that the Council have given our household a blue and green bin. So they give us the bins then tell us that we are not entitled to collections. Then they don't take the ugly things away so that any passerby who feels free to put trash into them does so and we are left with the stink to clear away.

They don't deal with an ever growing knotweed problem. Scourge of gardeners, ruiner of houses (it causes subsidence) and damn ugly. Another borough wide issue.

They don't repair walls. I'm waiting to see if the wall will fall on a neighbour's child or an elderly neighbour hobbling past to see if this spur the council on.

This is an ongoing saga that has left all living here feeling rather angry. We know we aren't the only ones in the borough to have issues but from what I can see, there doesn't seem to be a damn thing to do about it.

Roll on the Olympics when the world will see what a shite part of London this is turning into.

Friday, 3 April 2009

Places to eat Plumstead - Oxleas wood cafe

Where is good to eat in new series inspired by the odd comment that I've seen in other blogs about places to eat.
I don't foresee this being a long list of places as our options are limited. But I will probably venture into neighbouring territories in the borough as I am sure like us, you all like to get out once in a while.
For starters, let's take a slight step outside of Plumstead and go for the best view, you can't do worse that going for lunch up to Oxleas Wood. I've had a lovely coffee there and some cakes. The menu seems extensive though I have yet to try a main. But take your food outside and soak up that view.
For the lazy or time limited, there is even a handy carpark.

Fairy Cakes!

I went all W.I. this week and made fairy cakes for the playgroup's Easter Hunt. All I can say is that I have a lot to learn about icing.

Hopefully the kids enjoyed my efforts. I know I enjoyed the batch I kept at home and covered in butter icing.

Now I must start that diet soon and look at ways to ensure me and mine don't have butter-induced heart attacks.

For those who like all things cakey, check out the Cake Shop link that a mate just sent me. Yum yum yum!

Wednesday, 1 April 2009

new shop!?

So the old Right Move shop is now a computer repair shop.
Must admit I was a tad disappointed. Was hoping for a shiny new eaterie as there is a defo lack around here.
But would we want a starbucks or cafe nero around here? If we did have one, I would prefer it to have a view of the Common and have space for my pushchair. Ah no such luck.:(